Wednesday, March 17, 2010

:: if you're in her shoes ::

Salam to all my readers

today, i feel so mature that i can't wait to get married. lol. wanna know why? earlier today, i had a chat with my friends about being a married man and all things about marriage. but then suddenly, my friend come up with a story about her relationship with her current boyfriend, which is taken as a bad news by her parents. we call her Kak H (not her real name).

here i share with you guys a lil bit of the story. it's like a love story between Jack Dawson and Rose DeWitt Bukater in Titanic. lol again. this friend of mine, she's 27 and her boyfriend is older than her. ok, that one her parent can accept. but that guy is academically lower than Kak H. this one, a big NO NO to her parent. the reason is, they don't afraid that that man can't support his family and will lead to financial problem later on.

in my opinion, yeah, the guy usually have to be richer or senang kte, tinggi drp yang perempuan. this is because the man will be the one who gonna support his wife and the rest of his family regardless of the job or position of his spouse. if he don't have a secure job or his job is not as good as his partner, the situation will be a little awkward and uncomfortable when it comes to who's gonna pay the bills, who's gonna do the groceries and who's gonna pay for pay the house rent. from these reasons, it's clear that her parents has strong points to forbid her from marrying that guy.

i don't think she will living a happy life if this matter doesn't come to an end. i mean she lover him so much that she doesn't want to lose him but at the same time, she doesn't want to be marked as a black sheep in her family. like an old Malay saying, di luah mati emak, di telan mati bapak. she's trying her best to convince her family to accept him as his in-law.

so guys, you've read the story. now it's your time to give out your opinion and i would love to hear that from all my readers. feel free to drop some thoughts in the comment box. just think - if you're in her shoes, what would you do? what decision would you make? thanks for sharing guys. love ya!


10 puji aku smart:

|arieza| said...

well honestly in my opinion, mmg la bab2 financial ni leh buat huru hara dalam rumahtangga.. tp tak semestinya org yg kurang dr segi education level, takleh dapat financial gain yg lbh besar. tu perlunya usaha.. klu dia ada diploma je skali pun, atau sekadar spm. tp dia leh je keje keras utk dpt keje yg baik kn? semua bermula dari bawah klu benar2 ingin berusaha.. alasan pendidikan lbh rendah dr kita tu agak terlalu skematik dan stigmatised kot. mmg betul pendidikan (as in certificate) tu penting. tp ada je yg sekadar lulus PMR boleh menempah nama jd org yg berjaya dlm industri ekonomi.. so klu dia rasa betul2 cinta tu niat yg baik, usaha lebih. go for kerja yg stable. biarlah bermula dari bawah. asalkan boleh majukan diri sendiri dr segala segi..

chokio_nia said...

mak aih..mcm susah je..hurmmm..tatau la nak ckp ek..rasenye, bek tayah kot..kalo tade restu parents, susahla..huhu

Ayda Munir said...

In my honest opinion, I dont think that it's big problem when our partner is academically lower than us.But maybe she could persuade her parents to accept that guy:)

Just_najmiE said...

penah rasa macam nih.. my mum didn't accept my bf to be lower in terms of education and level of thinking.. hence the reason I'm still single.. =P

parents blessing is VERY IMPORTANT.. never loose your parents for another person or for love or for fame and fortune.. they have nurtured you since u were little, they deserve to have a say in your future.. take care of them and you'll be rewarded in the hereafter.. make good choices!..

p/s - my opinion.. u can agree or disagree.. (^^,)

tukangcarut said...

dalam kes nih, they(kak h and her family) shud sit and discuss this matter carefully.mmg la.mak pak mane x syg anak(kecuali yg bodo sengal ubi).mesti diorg nak tgk umah tgge anak diorg epi, mkn pakai terjamin and so on and so forth.but then, her family kene gak considered their daughter's feeling as we r no longer in zaman where their parents took care of their children's life.be realistic and lil bit considerable la.
and as for kak h, klu die nk gain trust from her family, show something that they can work it.tht edu level is not a benchmark for a happy marriage.soh bf die keje kuat ke, ape je la asalkn, die mmpu tawan hati parents kak h.
restu mak pak mmg penting.but dont forget, klu betul tu jodoh dari Nya, tak kemana.Allah will leads the way.just dont give up and keep praying.

Judiene said...

Arieza ~ talk about financial gain. that guy got lots of work to do. hehe.

Judiene said...

Chokio_nia ~ yeah, restu parents mmg penting. but how about his daughter's feeling? ;P

Judiene said...

Ayda Munir ~ she already did. but her parents still don't wanna accept that guy. poor thing.

Judiene said...

Najmie ~ wow! got advised by a person who've been through this crucial moments. good, i'll pass this to her. =)

Judiene said...

Tukangcarut ~ you really got me thingking la dude. everything you said is true. really. thanx for the opinion.

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